Boys and Girls
By Hunza Ali

In this article, I am going to focus on a topic thatís very common in Muslim youth, yet no one really talks about it. The interaction between boys and girls according to Islam faces a lot of prejudice. Itís an issue we need to focus more about. Growing up in the western society, itís sometimes hard to avoid being pulled into this issue.

I am an adolescent born in the west. My life is completely different from children that live in Muslim countries. In the Muslim countries, girls and boys are separated and donít interact much. Whereas here in the west, boys and girls talk freely without feeling ashamed.

Schools that are only for girls, allow girls to be free to learn or act the way they want and discover themselves without external pressure, such as their interaction, romantic or otherwise, with boys.
The way things are in public schools here in the west, where boys and girls go to school together, is very different. Girls who go to an all-girls school are scoffed at by other friends who may attend public schools.
All the boys who chase girls just want to use a girl and be able to call her their girlfriend, as long as she pleases them and they can enjoy her beauty. People who are involved in such activities are not followers of Allah, but followers of Satan. Satan gives false reassurance to the girl that the boy loves her and hopes a girl will lose her dignity and destroy her life. This is why Allah Almighty revealed these verses in the Quran; to protect women and men (quote is given below).
Verily, those who like that (the crime of) illegal sexual intercourse should be propagated among those who believe, they will have a painful torment in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allah knows and you know not. (24:19)

The reason why Muslims are forbidden to have boyfriends or girlfriends is because in a Muslimís married life, if one spouse is delayed in coming home, the other spouse may think that their husband or wife is having an affair, which leads to divorce. The reason that this may be assumed is because the spouse may have experienced this in earlier relationships and is insecure.
It doesnít matter if youíre living in a Muslim country or going to a co-ed school. You have to learn to make choices and follow what Allah wants you to, not go astray because everyone at school is doing so, as they will be punished in life and in the hereafter.

Many people want to know who you are going out with or who you like. Well, it doesnít matter, because I have chosen not to have a boyfriend, and thatís because I want to follow the path Allah wants me to. Many Muslims in the west donít care, and have boyfriends and girlfriends, hiding it from their parents and telling lies. You may be hiding it from your parents but Allah Almighty can see everything, and you canít hide anything from Him.
I have written this article to let people know that having a boyfriend or girlfriend is prohibited and you will be punished. It may be hard, especially when everyone else at school and all your friends are doing it, however, you have to be strong-willed and make the right choice.
Whatever actions have been committed in the past will be forgiven if you ask sincere repentance from Allah, but after becoming aware of the prohibition of boyfriends and girlfriends, if anyone continues to do what is wrong, they will never, ever be forgiven.
In conclusion, I hope after you have taken the time to read this carefully and understood the message coming across to you, you will try your best to avoid what is prohibited by Allah. I hope that I answered all of your questions, and thanks for taking the time to read this.

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